The Proverbial Side Eye

29 Dec

I stumbled across this video on clutch (the self-proclaimed online magazine for women of color).

I mean I get the sentiment but let’s not diminish the relevance and importance of the issue. Many single black women would like to be partnered and we’re having difficulty finding someone to actually partner with (yours truly included). Take a look at this recent post by Demetria Lucas and skim Is Marriage for White People: How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone for some source material if necessary. Yes I agree that we needn’t play the victim role but there is a significant issue here that Ms. Proehl rashly dismisses. And as far as I’m concerned love —  in its myriad forms — is just as important as eliminating discrimination; encouraging empowerment and educational and financial progression. In fact it helps us to do so.

I guess bell hooks was right.

We live in a culture where emotionally starved, deprived females are desperately seeking male love. Our collective hunger is so intense it rends us. And yet we dare not speak it for fear we will be mocked, pitied, and shamed. To speak our hunger for male love would demand that we name the intensity of our lack and our loss.

— The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

Yes I want to fight against discrimination, economic inequality, and any other form of injustice; but I’d like a partner by my side.

Run and tell that.


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