Tag Archives: Beyonce

Happy Friday!

18 Nov

I can’t get this song out of my head. From the mannequin challenge onto the you name it challenge. Oh the internets!


And I like Jontavian Barber’s version best of the #unameitchallenge but I couldn’t get the embed code to work. ūüė¶







Jessica Williams on Bey’s Halftime Performance

9 Feb

Jessica Williams of The Daily Show gives it to all who were offended by Beyonce’s performance during the Super Bowl halftime show. And she shuts it down. #LovedIt

Continue to slay ladies!




Queen Bey is Back with Formation

7 Feb

If you hadn’t heard, Beyonce released a surprise song/video on Saturday just in time for her Super Bowl Sunday 2016 half-time performance alongside ColdPlay.

There are so many things to unpack in Formation — self-love, black empowerment, female empowerment, the pursuit of the capitalist dream, and the devaluation of black life in the forms of¬†police brutality and the horrific devastation that was Hurricane Katrina and its aftermath.

I salute Beyonce¬†for bringing to attention to these critical issues and the song definitely has radio appeal. Although I’m not the biggest Beyonce fan, I can certainly appreciate her boldness as she matures and blossoms.¬†No doubt Formation will prove to be the black girl anthem for years¬†to come.

And because this is America where¬†everyone’s trying to get paid, there are t-shirts already for sell referencing the song lyrics. ¬†I won’t front, they cute.

Watch Queen Bey Slay…

Dating While Black Meets Dateonomics

23 Sep

daddyslittlegirlsI mentioned that I just finished Dateonomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game¬†by Jon Birger. The book reminded me a lot of Ralph Richard Banks’ Is Marriage for White People? How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone.¬†The books are similar in that they closely examine the lack of “marriageable” men and include suggestions on how¬†women should navigate “the man deficit” as Birger calls it. Although Birger doesn’t specifically focus on the black community like Banks, he does highlight some trends within the black dating market. Early on, Birger¬†mentions the high disparity of women and men attending Howard University.

[The gender ratio at] Howard University in Washington, DC is 69:31. Some of the most extreme college gender gaps are found at historically black institutions like Howard. Indeed, when it comes to gender gaps and their impacts, the African American community is the proverbial canary in the coal mine.

A ratio of 69 (women) to 31 (men) translated into a percentage means that there are 122% more women than men at Howard! Insane. In Is Marriage for White People?, Banks claims that the decline of marriage within the black community is a precursor to what will be experienced in white America echoing Birger’s “canary in the coal mine” idiom.

Birger has five suggestions for single college-educated women seeking a spouse. One of which includes marrying a man with lesser education. According to Birger,

Such parings are already commonplace in the African American community, where the college gender gap is extreme. According to NCES [National Center for Education Statistics], 112,898 African American women graduated from four-year colleges in 2011, versus 59,119 African American men. As a result, educated African American women who wish to marry within their own race have little choice but to consider dating less educated African American men.

Black pop culture reflects this demographic reality. Beyonce (who grew up in a wealthy Houston suburb) makes dating down sound downright sexy in songs such as “Suga Mama” and “Upgrade U.” And mixed-collar relationships are a staple of Tyler Perry movies: In The Family That Preys, Havard-educated Andrea is married to hunky construction worker Chris, and in Daddy’s Little Girls, romance blooms between attorney Julia and muscle-bound Monty. Cleveland matchmaker Tammie Collins, who is African American, told me that mixed-collar pairings were “definitely” more common among her black clients than among white ones. A 2010 Pew Research report reflected the same reality: 33 percent of African American women were married to men with less education, compared to 28 percent of all American women.

Birger and Banks differ in that Birger advocates dating down while Banks is a proponent of dating out i.e., dating interracially. I’d argue that the risks¬†of dating down are higher for black women than for white women. Can we afford to date down? And at what cost? Let me be clear, I would date a man with less education. But he’d have to be gainfully employed and able to stimulate me intellectually. I don’t¬†care for dolts whether they be degreed or not.

Overall I found Birger’s book informative and affirmative. It’s not you ladies, it’s the gender ratio. Gender ratios vastly impact the behavior or men and women in variant dating markets. According Birger, “males invest more effort in finding and keeping a mate when females are in short supply.”

Lastly, here are Birger’s tips¬†for single college-educated women seeking marriage:

  1. Make gender ratios a consideration when choosing a college.
  2. Be aware that holding out is a risky marriage strategy for college-educated women.
  3. Your workplace is part of your dating ecology, so choose your career judiciously.
  4. Go West, Young Woman. [Generally speaking there are more single men out west.]
  5. College-educated women should consider expanding their dating pool to include lesser-educated men.

WABGTD Tees for Sale!

16 Jan

wagbtd teeSo I decided to try and get in on this T-shirt selling thing. It seems so simple… You can purchase my t-shirt here. And be sure to check out the back of the shirt.

One more thing. ¬†For those in the DMV, ?uestlove will be deejaying tonight at the Howard Theatre. You know I got my ticket. I always have a blast! If you haven’t heard him spin, be sure to do yourself a favor.

Happy Weekend!

It’s time to¬†party!



So Much Trouble in the World #Bob Marley

29 May
Courtesy of ToddSchnick.com

Courtesy of ToddSchnick.com


It’s been awhile.

So much has transpired in the past month or so.

A racist rancher in Nevada takes center stage, followed by a racist NBA team owner who gets the boot thanks to a discriminatory rant secretly recorded by his mixed archivist/girlfriend.

Thirty-ish something brown girls everywhere were disappointed in the casting of Aurora Perrineau for the role of Shana Elmsford in the upcoming movie Jem and the Holograms based on the hit cartoon series of the 1980s. Producers were accused of whitewashing the only black character on the show by casting Aurora Perrienau (a fair-skinned black woman with long straight hair) in the role of a clearly discernible brown girl with a huge purple afro.  I agree.

Columbus Short threatened to kill¬†himself and his estranged wife,¬†subsequently losing his role as Harrison Wright on the hit TV show Scandal. Comedian D.L. Hughley decided to chime in on the Short’s domestic by calling the estranged wife a “thirsty hoe” who needed to “shut the fuck up.”

He’s so supportive, isn’t he?

Hughley folded and issued an¬†apology¬†for his illegitimate, insensitive, sexist comments shortly thereafter. Actor Michael Jace from the television show Shield is accused of murdering his wife while their two children were at home. Solange Knowles violently attacked brother-in-law H to the izz-O…V to the izz-A in an elevator while at the Met Gala. Tickets for Jigga and Bey’s On the Run Tour have dropped since ElevatorGate. The couple released a trailer in promotion of their tour following the elevator kerfuffle. I have yet to view it but Leslie Robison of the culture vlog Let Leslie Tell It¬†suggests that the film promotion is merely a creative way for the Carters to acquire more of our money. I’m sure. But what else is new? In more black celebrity news, rapper T.I. and boxer Floyd Mayweather beef at a Fatburger restaurant in Vegas.

Where is the love people?

Unfortunately we lost an advocate of love, ¬†compassion, justice, and equality yesterday. Poet, educator, activist Dr. Maya Angelou left us at the age of 86. Her words and actions inspired all to do better, be better. One of my favorite quotes is “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.” True dat.

We are so thankful for all that you have inspired within us.

May you rest in peace. And may we do better.



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